Jessie J breaks down after revealing her secret miscarriage.  

Written by Jessica Flack.

 

Introduction.

The 33-year-old singer Jessie J who recently split up with her boyfriend Max Pham, has shared some traumatic news to her 10.4 million followers on Instagram about the miscarriage of her baby. She later deleted this post because she felt as though she didn’t explain her situation in the right mindset.

Previous Troubles.

For so long, she was told that she wouldn’t be able to have children due to fertility struggles, but after sharing a photo of a positive pregnancy test, she thought her miracle had finally happened. Jessie has openly spoken about her trouble conceiving and even puts her emotions into lyrics as a way to cope. When Jessie had an interview with BBC News in 2019, she touched on this subject as people were confused. It was then that she explained that she was diagnosed with adenomyosis five years prior to this interview and that she would struggle a lot when trying to conceive.

Adenomyosis is a condition when the tissue that normally lines the uterus grows into the muscular wall of the uterus. Although doctors are still unsure of what causes it, the common symptoms are severe cramping, prolonged menstrual cycles and chronic pelvic pain. This affects 20% to 65% of females so it can vary a lot depending on the individual. This seems like a more usual condition to have, compared to something like Endometriosis which we think is more regular, despite it only affecting 10% of reproductive aged girls and women which is less than Adenomyosis.

Just one day after her miscarriage, she played a gig of roughly 200 fans in LA. During her gig she talked about the devastation and also people’s reactions on social media. She said “I decided to have a baby on my own because it’s all I’ve ever wanted and life is short” and “Yesterday morning I was laughing with a friend saying ‘seriously though, how am I going to get through my gig in LA tomorrow night without telling the whole audience I am pregnant.’ Then by yesterday afternoon I was dreading the thought of getting through the gig without breaking down.” She went on to sing a very emotional performance of her 2015 song ‘Flashlight’ where she had to get the audience to finish the song for her.

The Show Must Go On.

Videos of this gig went viral on the internet and she even posted it a few days after with a big caption where she explained the reason for deleting the previous post and giving support to anyone else who may be going through the same thing as her. “I posted about losing my baby just hours after I was told. I reacted in work mode. It’s safe to say I sometimes pour more energy into creating an unhealthy process of my own pain in front of a camera, than I do acknowledging it behind one in real time. The show must go on. Mentality reacted before the human in me did.”

This sparked many other celebrities to comfort her in the comments with people like Paloma Faith who said: “Jessie you are 100% doing the right thing. I had a miscarriage on a film set where I was filming and I just kept filming. You get your joy from singing and you need your joy more than ever. You will and should have a baby. Women are amazing!”. Other people also took to her comments to show sympathy, however mistaking her miscarriage news for a pregnancy announcement. This was brought up at the LA gig and luckily Jessie said that she wasn’t too bothered because she has a sense of humour. It was estimated that infertility affects 1 in 7 couples across the UK. Since the 2004 NICE guideline on fertility was published, there has since been a minor increase in the commonness of fertility problems and people are gradually seeking help for these problems. Many risk factors can include common things like age, smoking or alcohol. However, this can all depend on the individual.

If you’re in the same situation as Jessie or know someone that is, visit the Fertility Network website to get more information & know that you’re not in it alone! https://fertilitynetworkuk.org

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